4 Steps to Finding True Love this Valentine's Day

Valentine’s Day is a wonderful day for those who are in love and happy in their relationship but for others it can be a simple reminder that they’re not.  

WAIT.  

STOP.  

Why does Valentine’s Day have to be a spent waiting for someone else to make a move?

What about Me?

When was the last time you gave yourself a compliment, when was the last time you took yourself out to lunch or treated yourself to a spa booking, bought flowers for yourself or wrote yourself a beautiful card?

Sounds desperate and corny right?  How do you expect someone else to come along and love you if you continue to find fault and reason not to love yourself?

Love is something that we are all deserving of and can have any time we choose.  When we continue to search outside of ourselves we will continue to feel frustrated and helpless. When we are in a great relationship with ourselves we are far more likely to find our ideal partner and when they do come along we are ready to share our love for ourselves with them in equal partnership.

Be YOUR own Valentine First

So this Valentine’s Day start with the most important person in your world.  Write yourself a card, buy yourself a gift and treat yourself to a beautiful day fuelled by love.   Irrespective of the your feeling towards Valentine's Day.  What would happen if you took this one day each year to remind yourself to gift to yourself first?

SHARE Love selflessly

If you want to add even more love make an effort to share your love with two other wonderful people in your life.  It could be a friend who you know could use a bit of a pick up or a parent who may have lost their partner in life.  When we give love we receive it back ten-fold and if you don’t believe me I dare you to try it out.

Write a Valentine's Card for someone you admire in your life and why you are grateful for them. Write without any intention of a response, simply send love.  You never really know where this may lead, don't think about that, just write with intention to brighten someone's day. 

Be DARING and forgiving

If you want a real Valentine’s challenge, write a card to someone who you have fallen out with in the past, send them nothing but love and kindness and write down all the lessons in life that they have blessed you with. You don't have to send this card unless you choose to but just writing it out and releasing any past tensions should give you a gift.

MANIFEST more LOVE

And finally if you are single and have already completed all of the above.  Write a letter to your future partner, thanking them for all the beautiful traits that they hold, all the characteristics that you love about them and then… get a mirror out and work out which of these traits you need to work on giving back to yourself.

This is a powerful manifestation exercise so be sure to write down EXACTLY what you want. You are far more powerful than you could ever believe and if you are really challenged by the concept of finding love for yourself some coaching and action in this area could be exactly what you need to begin the ripple effect into all other parts of your life.

FREE Self Love course.  

Create More Space for Presence in your Life

Creating Space in your Day

Most of us have lives where we are juggling several roles at once and if you’re like me it can be a challenge to flow smoothly from work mode to parent mode to creating space for myself mode.  There are days where it all just gets meshed together and it is those days where I feel like I am failing at ALL the roles in my life. 

I used to feel this way a lot before I introduced a method called Third Space into my life.  Third Space is literally as it sounds, creating a space in your day that slots in between the various parts of your life. 

At first glance it would seem ridiculous to ADD something more into ones day but what this additional space does is create a pause between the different roles that you play in your life to switch gears and be absolutely present. 

For example 

I might be on a call for work as I am walking home.  I used to get glares from my husband for being on the phone which would make me lose track of my conversation on the phone making the person on that call feel like I wasn’t really listening to them and leaving me feel guilty about failing both as a wife and a attentive business person. 

I now take the call outside, away from the house.  Complete with that call and then stand in my THIRD SPACE for less than a minute to re-focus my attention on me, reconnect with my breath and then clear my energy so that when I walk into my house I can embrace my son and my husband to really be there for them.

The same goes when I am moving from one client to the next or when I am finishing a workout of my own and then training a client.  

This small gap between the various roles in my life allows me to complete whatever it is that I need to complete and be fully present in my next part of my day. 

SIMPLE APPLICATION:

  1.   Complete what you were doing
  2.   Note any follow up actions that need to be taken
  3.   Pause and breathe and reconnect with yourself *
  4.   Acknowledge the next part of your day
  5.   Move into that part of your day with grace and presence

* Feel the ground under your feet or notice the temperature of your breath as it enters you nostrils or the feel sensation of your heart beating in your chest.

Try this out in your own life and send me an email to let me know how this works for you. 

Image Capture thanks to the wonderful Rebecca Colefax Insta: @rebeccacolefax

Stride with Style through 2017 - Reflect to Project your Vision

We are nearing the end of the year and it is about this time that many of us become reflective of the year that is now behind us.  For many that I have coached, this year has been one of great challenge and an emotional rollercoaster where many are making a quick sprint to the finish line.  Sound familiar?  STOP.  

While there may be pain, disappointment, hardships and challenges, that we have each encountered in our year how will we be able to create the 2017 we want if we don’t first acknowledge the 12 months that have just gone? only then are you equipped to really expand and create of your ultimate vision for 2017. 

"Like wildflower, you must allow yourself to grow in all places people thought you never would."

There are diamonds to be found in your past year that may be your key to creating the 2017 of our dreams so therefore reflecting and acknowledging all experiences without judgement and more importantly finding the gifts of hindsight that you might carry with you into 2017 is an integral part of the process of creation.  

If you had some misfortunes this year, what did you learn from these experiences? What would you do differently today than you did in that moment?  If there was a loss of a family member or friend, how can you live your life to honour them, how would they love to see you move through your life in your joy, what visions did you cast with them by your side and what actions are you taking to create these?  If you made a poor decision in your business/career this year, will you make a different decision when faced with a similar circumstance next time?  What did you achieve this year?  What can you now do coming into 2017 that you would not have thought possible a five or ten years back?

How are you going to make a positive impact next year?  Who do you need to forgive?  What story do you need to let go of?  Which feelings do you need to focus on bringing into your life on a daily basis?  Who and what do you need to commit to and what actions will you have to take to create this next year for yourself?

In the goal- setting workbook we delve into some of these questions and give you space to create so that you can make a clear set point for your year in 2017.   

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5 Ways to Start 2017 empowered in your wellbeing.

Self Love

What do I love about my body?  What do I need support with?  How can I change my story to support and love myself more?

We spend a lot of our time in self-critical thinking.  When was the last time you paid yourself a compliment?  Maybe this year it's time to flip the critique into a cheerleader.  Notice your self critique and kindly let it know where to find 2016. 

Exercise

How do I stay active now?  What is my stickability point?  Where are my results lacking?  Where can I get support?

  • New Exercise Gear
  • New Exercise Style
  • Acknowledge what's is not your jam
  • Find your FUN style
  • What's are you going to do differently next year?

Nutrition

Where is your energy at?  Are you happy with your eating plan?  Do you feel stressed about getting nutrition right?  What support do you need to make a real shift in your ultimate nutrition. Do you need to cleanse?

Meditation

Is this something that you do in your life?  How do you switch off?  Are you able to commit to a program or routine?  Where are the pockets of your day where meditation might begin to play a role?

  • In a queue 
  • Waiting for your coffee
  • Commuting to and from work
  • Walking your dog
  • On a run

Contribution

How are you contributing to something greater than yourself and connecting with a community of like-minded people.  It could be taking up a hobby or simply joining a social media group of people who are in a similar industry or play similar sports to you.  Contributing to a community whatever its size creates a sense of belonging and allows us to move beyond the walls that we tend to build around ourselves when we are busy and stressed. Find a cause that you truly believe in and donate even 3% of your time to that this year.  Watch as over the next year that 3% of your time or money becomes something more meaningful than you ever thought possible. 

Creating powerful methods and strategies for you to be able to fit wellbeing into your life means that you are more likely to create a wellbeing plan that has stickability and isn't thrown out like that ab roller from 1994.

 

 

Three Simple ways to add Cleansing into your Daily Routine

We all love to overindulge at Christmas time.

Apple cider Vinegar (organic, unfiltered) +   warm water & a tsp of raw honey to taste if you like.

THIS IS A GREAT DRINK TO START YOUR DAY.  MAKE SURE YOU DON'T DO WHAT MY HUSBAND TRIED AND DRINK IT AS A SHOT STRAIGHT.  YOU WANT THIS TO BE PALATABLE AND SOMETHING THAT YOU CAN ADD EFFORTLESSLY INTO YOUR DAILY ROUTINE.  

  • Assists indigestion
  • Contains Gut healthy  bacteria 
  • May help clear skin
  • moderates blood sugar levels
  • Can help nasal congestion
  • Help boost your energy levels

LITTLE KNOWN FACT:  IN FRANCE THE WORD VINEGAR ACTUALLY MEANS "SOUR WINE"

Black Lemonade - Detox quick fix

This is a great tonic if you have been over doing the festivities over the Silly Season.  Activated charcoal is comprised of coal, peat, coconut or wood and heated to create internal pores.  The charcoal absorbs toxins and excess gas  in the gut and assists the body in eliminating.

You can make an unsweetened version by juicing a couple of lemons and adding a teaspoons of activated charcoal or if you are a sweet tooth you could add a tsp of maple syrup to the mixture.

LIttle Know Fact:  They actually use CHARCOAL in emergency rooms to treat POISONING or drug overdoses.

Soak in a bath of detox salts (I personally love the Noosa Soak by Soak Society) 

There is nothing more soothing after a hectic day than to let go of your day in a bath filled with luxury.  If you don't have a bath you can modify this with a foot soak. Our feet have the largest pores in our body and we spend most of our time neglecting them.  Simply spending 10 minutes in a soak can rejuvenate A weeks worth of partying. Create the ultimate soak by setting your scene with a warm herbal tea, some candles and soothing tunes and you will be recharged in no time.